Identifying and Managing Dismissive and Bully Opposing Attorneys
Attorney-to-attorney interactions often are a battleground of skill, knowledge and personalities. It is the personality component that can lead to the same dysfunctional relationship between the attorneys that the parties experience with each other. This program explores these sometimes explosive relationships and provides effective tools for attorneys to manage the most difficult and possibly high conflict personality opposing attorney. This program is interactive, as time allows, with participants discussing their successful and unsuccessful tactics and experiences.
Approved by the State Bar of California for 1.0 hour MCLE, including .50 hour elimination of bias.
Comments: “Just a brief note to convey my appreciation of your training seminar at the ABA 2014 Spring Symposia. While legal theory and cases are the usual focus of our legal studies, your unique presentations help counsel also understand the critically important role and dynamics of the personalities and emotions of the parties and their lawyers. As a mediator and litigator, I particularly appreciated the special insights you shared in your Chicago program about practical strategies for dealing with difficult opposing counsel, including gender bias. Fascinating, and very useful in mediation and negotiations. Keep up the great work!” Bill Andrews, Esq., Santa Rosa, CA., Co-Chair, ABA Emotional & Psychological Issues in Estate Planning Committee.
“I enjoyed your program, as always.” Aen Webster, Esq., Buchanan Ingersoll &
Rooney, PC, Washington, D.C., Vice-Chair, Continuing Legal Education, ABA Real
Property, Trust & Estate Section
“Paul was so vibrant and interesting and I wanted the program to keep going. The interactive approach with the audience was very effective. I wish I had attended this years ago. Fantastic.” Maria Hamar, Esq., Chair, Family Law Section, Women Lawyers Association of Los Angeles
“Excellent presentation.” Richard Stuhlbarg, Bowman and Brooke LLP, Board member, South Bay Bar Association.
“Very well done, informative and interesting. Overwhelming positive response from the audience.”" Keith A. Davidson, Esq., Managing Partner, ALBERTSON & DAVIDSON, Chair, Riverside County Bar Association Estate Planning, Probate & Elder Law Section.
“I have heard really nice comments about the presentation.” Stewart R. Albertson, Partner, ALBERTSON & DAVIDSON.
- American Bar Association – Real Property, Trust & Estate Spring Symposia, 5-2-14, Chicago.
- Los Angeles County Bar Association, Trust & Estate Section, May 21, 2014.
- ProVisors, Orange County Lawyers and Legal Professionals Affinity Group, June 5, 2014.
- Women Lawyers Association of Los Angeles, November 14, 2014.
- South Bay Bar Association, December 2, 2014.
- Riverside County Bar Association, May 20, 2015.
- Federal Bar Association, Los Angeles Bankruptcy Section, November 20, 2015
- Southern California Chinese Lawyers Association, December 9, 2015
- Beverly Hills Bar Association, Trust & Estate Section, May 3, 2016
Identifying and Managing High Conflict Personality Clients
This program will help professionals identify difficult, high conflict personality clients and present approaches on how to better manage them by discussing the four most common high conflict personalities: borderline, histrionic, narcissistic and antisocial. For these clients, the drive for conflict arises from their personalities, rather than the business deal, issues or amount of money involved. These personality types represent 10% to 12% of the general population and a significant proportion of a lawyer’s practice. There is a life-long pattern of blaming others and not taking responsibility for their actions. How these very difficult individuals are handled can either escalate or contain your relationship with them.
Comments: “Great program.” “Thank you for your time and presentation today. I found it helpful as a planner who works closely with our litigators on these matters.” “It was great listening to your presentation.” “Great presentation!” “Your comments on how to deal with high conflict personality people and, more importantly, how to avoid them, were great.” “I thoroughly enjoyed your presentation this afternoon.” “Excellent.” “Great talk.”
- Jewish Community Foundation, at Los Angeles Chamber of Commerce, October 25, 2011.
- ProVisors, Brentwood, January 19, 2012.
- American Bar Association – Real Property, Trust & Estate Spring Symposia, New York, May 4, 2012.
- American Bar Association – Emotional & Psychological Issues in Estate Planning Committee, June 18, 2012.
- ProVisors, Valley Lawyers and Legal Professionals, June 19, 2012.
- ProVisors, Los Angeles Lawyers and Legal Professionals Affinity Group, February 8, 2013.
- Managing Difficult High Conflict Personality Clients in Estate and Trust Litigation for the American Bar Association – Litigation, Ethics and Malpractice Group, July 9, 2014.
- ProVisors, Century City 6, February 8, 2017
Estate Conflict Managment Workshop – Preserving Assets. Providing Security. Bringing Families Peace
This workshop focuses on early identification and management of conflict that could arise out of a testator’s estate planning and which could lead to litigation. The workshop also explores and brainstorms means of managing conflict in estate litigation. It is an opportunity for participants to be at the genesis of a change in the culture of how conflicts are resolved in probate and estates litigation. Participants will come away with concepts and techniques developed during the workshop that may lead to the creation of best practices where they do not yet exist. It is an opportunity for participants to be at the genesis of a change in the culture of how conflicts are resolved in probate litigation.
Approved by the State Bar of California for 1.0 hour MCLE.
- American Bar Association – Real Property, Trust & Estate Spring Symposia, Philadelphia, May, 2010.
- National Elder Law Foundation, Annual Symposia, Dallas, January, 2011.
- Pepperdine University School of Law, Malibu, Ca., 2011.
- Newport Beach Lawyers Group
- South Bay / Torrance Lawyers Group
- Riverside County Bar Association
- San Bernardino County Bar Association
- Fresno County Bar Association
- Kern County Bar Association
- San Diego County Bar Association
- San Mateo County Bar Association
- Redwood Empire Estate Planning Council
- Estate Planning & Trust Council of Long Beach
- San Fernando Valley Estate Planning Council
- South Bay Legal Consortium
- Alameda County Bar Association, Trusts and Estates Section
- Marin County Estate Planning Council
- Los Angeles Estate Planning Council
- Orange Coast Estate Planning Council
- Sacramento Estate Planning Council
- Beverly Hills Estate Planning Council
- San Bernardino Estate Planning Council
- California Society of Certified Public Accountants, Los Angeles Chapter, Estate Planning Section
- San Gabriel Valley Estate Planning Council
- Warner Center Estate Planning Council
- Womans Lawyers Association of Long Beach, “Basics to Advanced Issues in Mediation”, 2-26-07.
- American Bar Association – Emotional & Psychological Issues in Estate Planning Committee, “Emotional & Psychological Aspects of Estate Planning & Litigation for Gay, Lesbian and Other Non-traditional Clients: What’s Unique and What’s Not”, program chair and panel speaker. December, 2010.
- American Bar Association – Emotional & Psychological Issues in Estate Planning Committee, “Preparing for Trust and Estate Mediations”, program chair and panel speaker. March, 2011.
- American Bar Association – Emotional & Psychological Issues in Estate Planning Committee, “What (Or Should) Keeps Clients Awake at Night and How this Might (or Should) Shape the Estate Planning Process”, program chair. May, 2011, repeated as an eCLE teleconference, November, 2011.
- American Bar Association – Emotional & Psychological Issues in Estate Planning Committee, “A Psychiatrist’s Guide to Succession Planning, Including Family Businesses With Family Baggage”, program chair, January, 2013.
- American Bar Association – Emotional & Psychological Issues in Estate Planning Committee, “Mediating Trust and Estate Disputes — Opportunities and Challenges for Lawyers and Disputing Parties”, speaker with Lela Porter Love, Esq., professor of law and director of the Kukin Program for Conflict Resolution at Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law (NYC), April, 2014.